“The most important relationship we have in our lives, is the one we have with ourselves, and we’re not taught about it.”
Iskra Lawrence
Ask yourself these questions and answer them as truthfully as you can:
- Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered why you couldn’t look like the people in the magazines, TV, or films?
- Have you ever walked into a store and thought you couldn’t pull off certain articles of clothing?
- Have you (or has someone else) ever compared yourself to another person (family member, friend, stranger, or celebrity)?
You’ve probably answered yes to all these questions.
That’s okay.
Now, let me ask you one more question.
Can you stand in front of a mirror right now and be completely satisfied with the way you look?
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The answer is mostly likely no.
So, you’ve probably seen or heard the phrase body positivity floating around the internet a lot lately but you’d like a better understanding of it, or maybe you worry you’re excluded from it because of how you look or feel about yourself
What is body positivity?
Body positivity is unlearning the idea that only certain bodies are worth acceptance and praise, and instead recognizing that ALL bodies are equally valuable. It’s deciding what feels good and healthy for YOU personally, and letting other people do so for themselves. It’s understanding that you deserve to live in your body without receiving the prejudice of others (rude comments, reduced economic opportunity, inadequate health care, or something else), and working toward a world where NO ONE’S body is the target of such bias.
The roots of can be found in the fat acceptance movement, which supports the liberation of fat bodies and fights against stigma surrounding them. However, the definition of body positivity has been broadened to encompass bodies that haven’t traditionally been the target of such disproportionate bias.
One big misconception is that body positivity isn’t for men. It is important to recognize that people who identify outside the gender binary (or those who don’t easily “pass”) should also be able to live in and love their bodies without being treated by healthcare professionals, employers, law enforcement, or anybody else.
Accepting and loving your body doesn’t mean that the outside is the most important part about you, or that you cease working to improve your nonphysical qualities. For me, adopting body-positive ideals actually freed up my mind to learn more about what I want to get out of life, to open myself up to others, to be more accepting of others, and to work on gaining knowledge and skills I never gotten around to learn about because I was so consumed with the size of my thighs.
So here are the main points of what body positivity is and isn’t:
- Being body positive doesn’t make you immune to the pressures society places on your body.
- Modern body positivity is for people of ANY size.
- It is for people of every gender.
- It doesn’t make you vain or vapid.
As part of the project, I spoke to friends and family about the topic of body positivity. I asked 3 people on why they think its important to have a positive outlook when it comes to body image. Also, if they had the opportunity to go back and talk to their younger selves about body positivity/image. What would they say to their younger self?
Anna Martha Agundez
Age: 25
English Student at California State University, Sacramento
"Body Positivity is important to me because even though we as humans should all strive to be healthy, we should also love our natural bodies with whatever genetic cocktail we are born with. Trying to "over-correct" our bodies causes stress and shame which are unhealthy."
"If I could talk to my younger self, I would simply say that 'No matter what you envy in other girls' bodies, they envy something about you, which means you are actually beautiful and you don't need to feel like your body is missing something to make you feel beautiful.'"
Sarah Jihad Al-Tayab
Age: 23
Vegan / Body Positive Activist
"Being apart of the body positive community has given me the confidence I've long needed to embrace the body I have and show it off to the world. Nobody can tell you your body isn't beautiful."
"Just because she's thinner than you, doesn't mean she's prettier than you."
Michaela Nasello
Age: 26
Masters Student at San Diego State University
"Body Positivity to me is empowering yourself to go and erase the definition that society has made for what is considered beautiful and to redefine it to what beautiful means to YOU."
"I know you don't like the way your hips, thighs, and booty look right now. But in a few years, girls will be paying thousands of dollars to have them. So get off the treadmill and go eat a canoli."
Body positivity is about working toward a world where everyone can live in their bodies as they please while receiving the same respect, representation, and opportunities as everyone else.
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